learning curve

so tonight i got together with the 204 girls (those are my waterloo homies, holding it down, ya know) for our christmas getogether (gettogether? get together? hmmm) ... we exchanged stories, laughs, presents and most importantly we had our cake and ate it too. good times all around.

anyway, we were talking about dating and guys - subjects that girls inevitably turn to - and my one friend told me that for christmas she was thinking of getting me he's just not that into you or whatever proper title it may have .. she resisted b/c she thought i might be insulted (rightly so). my other friend joined in and said that she too was considering getting me that book for christmas (she too decided not to b/c i might be offended).

do you think my friends are trying to tell me something?

(apparently it's supposed to be lighthearted and interesting and stuff ... or so they say)

it got me thinking though - re-evaluating my dating history.

i was out with some friends a few weekends ago, and bumped into this rather pretty boy. he was not the quickest boy on the block though ... so we will call him pdb (pretty, dumb boy - it works with and without the comma in there) ... anyway, when i was with my friends, pdb walked by and talked to me for a second. after, my friend asked me who the guy was. i said it was just the pdb (of course i used the full length name for the pretty dumb boy) and my friend said, "so just your type then"

was my friend right? had he pinpointed it? ... is the pretty dumb boy my type? i never thought that the pdb was my type. i've gone out with one pdb that i can think of off the top of my head and while i enjoyed the pretty part, the dumb part left me bored and uninterested. but maybe i'm just kidding myself, maybe i am into the pdbs ... or perhaps, i more just seek out the pdbs and that's why i don't tend to date any of them for an extended period of time.

am i just dating the wrong kind of guy? i never thought that i dated any one particular type of guy ... but maybe on some level they are the same. but isn't that what dating is about, to find who is right and who is wrong for you?

i was chatting to a co-worker today, and we were talking about chocolate and how girls like it a lot and how it's a wonderful gift to give a girl ... he said though, that his favourite thing to give a girl was flowers - not for her birthday or christmas or anything - more as a "just because" type gift. i thought about it for a second and realized that i have received flowers from a guy (who is not my father) on two occasions (not counting the silk corsage my date got me for our senior formal/prom or whatever you want to call it)

1. in grade 9, i went on an exchange to quebec for 1 week (it was a 2 week exchange in total, one week spent in ontario and one in quebec). when i returned, there were carnations in my locker (i know, i know ... carnations aren't the nicest flowers, but hey it was grade nine) ... soon after i discovered they were from this guy that apparently had a crush on me (i didn't know what to do with that information and proceeded to virtually ignore the guy until about 0ac ... how mean of me! but i was just a kid! and confused! how do you say thanks but no thanks?)
2. in fourth year university, a guy brought me a gerber daisy on our first date. it was pretty. i dried it - but i didn't do too good of a job of it b/c i think it still broke.

and really that's it (although, i did just remember now that while out with a guy last year at a jazz bar, there was one of those ppl walking around the bar selling roses ... and he bought me a couple .. i think it was more just to get the rose seller to go away though).

is my co-worker right then? is the lack of flowers a sign that i am dating the wrong kind of guys?

so help me then - where do i find the right ones?